I can definitely relate to all your posts. I have found, though, that when i give into this lack of motivation it feeds my depression. I hate that everything, even simple things have to be hard, so I have to find ways to push through that. I dreaded showering too, the whole process was overwhelming, so one day I realized (epiphany!) I don’t have to wash my hair and shave everyday. I can just take a quick soap and rinse of the necessaries most days. I wash my hair 2x a week and keep it short so it is easy to maintain. I shave 2x a week too. I use a good razor, good shaving cream and I slather my legs with nice smelling lotion. After months and months of not shaving my legs and feeling so ugly, having smooth soft legs has become an important part of my self care. Doing it 2x a week makes it easy to maintain.
I am 55 years old and more than a hundred pounds overweight, and shaved legs helps me to feel more feminine and sexy.