My initial thought was as some have said here--try another therapist. But I'd also think about the whole process in of itself.
I was forced to quit therapy due to cost, and I had a really hard time with ending, mostly because of my attachment to my T. I have since found a personal fitness training program for only $30 a week, and it seems like I'm emerging out of the emotional aspects of my depression for the first time. My clinical symptoms of depression have also started to lift, which I think is related to finally working up to 60 mins. of vigorous cardio/strength exercise 6 days a week. Exercise is shown to be as effective for depression as medications or therapy.
And it's great to have more body-mind balance. I am very 'feeling' of a person in terms of emotions, but therapy created a lot of intellectualization for me-being too much in my head-analyzing, processing, thinking about therapy, scenerios running through mind, thinking about Ts emails, worrying about T, renumerating over ruptures, etc. Quitting therapy has brought me more back to my body again, which how I was before therapy. I had done yoga and regular exercise inconsistently but throughout therapy, but I also was already spend the workday thinking, reading, writing, analyzing, so the extra focus and time spent in mind instead of body took a negative toll to my emotional, physical, and spiritual health.
So I wonder if therapy was making my depression worse. A good part of it was my T emphasizing or criticizing negative aspects of me, or pathologizing other things that really had no negative impact and otherwise shouldn't be 'issues', but revisiting all the childhood neglect/misery/trauma, and negative aspects of transference (eg, rejection) was a big contributer to my depression. Despite feeling positive emotions in session once a week from time to time, sitting through all that negative emotion did not contribute to wellness for me.
I also think gains in therapy are most concentrated in the beginning, when first learning about yourself. Once all my emotions were fully felt and expressed, patterns identified, etc., the benefit in therapy have lessened. Of course I would still benefit from continuing it. I could do it everyday and still find benefit, but it's just like anything else (ie self-help books-will reading 200 provide more benefit than reading just 20 key books?) I could also watch Netflix documentaries all day, and still benefit. But is it worth the time, negative side effects, or cost? So a cost-benefit analysis is something to think about. Where and how you want to invest your time.
I had depression or dysthymia the whole time during my therapy, which totals 8 years with 2 different Ts. Your issues might be more serious than mine, but I had periods of emotional instability during my therapy that I did not have prior to starting therapy. Have never been inpatient though and have stayed employed full-time.
In my case, trying something new has made a significant difference. I'm only just realizing this over the past week, so time will tell about long-term improvement.
Thought I'd add-Even though I never planned to stay in therapy for too long, I'm not trying to say therapy is a bad thing. I have had some positive experiences (particularly with one T) and mostly my first therapy has had good impact on many aspects of my life overall. But I want to emphasize that quitting can be positive too and can lead to positive life changes that may have not otherwise occurred by remaining in therapy.
Last edited by Anonymous52976; Feb 04, 2018 at 03:47 PM.
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