I think that all we can ever ask for is that we just do our best. Now, "our best" is very subjective, and what may appear to others as not really trying... could in fact be a lot different.

Do you feel as though you are trying? What sorts of things are you doing that could potentially help you? When I feel like i'm not really going anywhere, I sometimes just reflect back on what exactly it is that i'm working on to ... get somewhere, so to speak. So right now, that would be, participating in a Mindfulness class, speaking with a T, and also speaking with my pdoc. I also have little homework exercises that help to track my negative thinking.

Of course, those are just my examples, but I find that if I look at things more that way, it helps me to understand where exactly it is i'm standing at in the realm of "trying."

Sorry if i'm not being very clear...