Sam_I_Am,

I’m so sorry that you’ve gone through so much (((((Sam_I_Am))))) It is entirely possible that he did it in his sleep and didn’t even realize it. I cannot tell you how many times my own husband has done that. In the morning he’ll say “wow, thanks for waking me up, that was GREAT:” I’m like, ah, you woke me up.

I wouldn’t “confront” him per say, I’d talk to him about it. Just let him know that it makes you really uncomfortable. But like I said, he may have been on autopilot and not even known was he was doing.

If it makes you uncomfortable, it isn’t a big deal out of nothing. Are you in therapy to help you work through these issues? I know that they’ll never be gone, but hopefully they’ll be… less intense.

Please let us know what happens. Frankly I wouldn’t be surprised if he had no memory of the incident.