Curious how people feel about this--if it turned out you and your therapist had a mutual friend (or friends) without your having realized it, would you want to know? Would you want your friend to tell you? Would you want your therapist to tell you?

I've been thinking about this since I randomly realized a few days ago that a close friend of mine is another close friend's therapist. Neither of them is aware they both know me, and it was pure bizarre coincidence that I made the connection, so an unusual/weird situation where the best way to handle it is very particular to this specific set of circumstances. But it made me wonder more generally how people on here would want their friend/therapist to handle a scenario where they realize there's an overlap!

Personally, I'd want both my friend and my therapist to mention it to me if either of them made that connection and realized I wasn't already aware. My therapist and I do have a couple of friends and professional contacts in common, and we've discussed the ones we know about; if he realized there was social overlap I wasn't aware of I would want him to tell me. I don't think any of my friends know enough about the fact that I'm in therapy to figure out who my shrink is even if they know him, but if they did I'd probably want them to find a way to offhandedly alert me to the overlap.