Just thought I'd pass along a positive T experience.
During this week's session, I mentioned in a vague statement that I was somewhat uncomfortable because my relationship with my oldest is starting to change.
Although I didn't say this in my initial statement..he is approaching puberty and I'm kind of stressed about appropriate boundaries--I guess because mine were crossed at this age. Regardless, I feel really stupid when i am not sure about something that I should know but don't. Since this is an uncomfortable topic for me and I REALLY hate to appear stupid, I didn't elaborate beyond my general statement and started to move on to another topic.
My T paused me, didn't let it go, and asked for more specifics. I reluctantly gave them. My T seemed to understand, encouraged me to state my concerns, didn't treatment me like I was stupid, and directly answered each concern.
I know it doesn't sound like a big deal, but just the way the exchange went meant a lot. They were stupid questions, but I didn't feel stupid getting the answers. Knowing that my responses to my son were "normal" and appropriate was really helpful too.
I just liked the way my questions were handled. My T gets a "thumbs up" rating this week.
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