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Originally Posted by emptynightmare
I would rather be harsh and truthful and know what I'm working with than not know what to think when someone says "I hear what you're saying."
Unless that is code for validation but disagreeing? How can you validate someone when you disagree with them?
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Even if I strongly disagree with someone, I can validate their right to their own opinion. Suppose you say, "Rose, I think everything you're doing is wrong." I can respond with, "Well, emptyn., you can think that, if you want." Why should I waste my time arguing with you? That would be me letting you set my agenda for me. I've got better things to think about and to spend my energy on.
One of the things I've learned (and this is not directed at you) is that people who do a lot of arguing are usually losers.
As long as you know what you think, you don't have to explain it to anyone, usually.