I divide people in my life, those whose opinions & thoughts & valyes I respect & can learn from & those I don't (usually those who have hurt me in some way)

I care aboyt those who I respect. I don't make my life miserable from what they think but I when I can learn something from it great. Others I hear but usually just let their thoughts just leave me (teflon mind..a DBT term).

It is important as some people's thoughts are good for correcting out direction in lufe like a rudder on a boat. It we never make corrections based on respected opinions we could drift far out tovsea withoyt even knowing it.

Pick from those whose thoughts you respect even if they differ from your & analyze if thete is anything of value they have to offer through the thought they offer