Hello Dee: I'm sorry you are in this most difficult situation. Personally, I don't think any of this was your fault. This man has a boatload of problems & a penchant for putting it all off onto someone else... you. I'm not a psychologist or an addictions expert either. So I can't say whether how this man is acting is all related to the drugs or if there are perhaps some additional mental health issues going on here. But, to some extent, from my perspective, it really doesn't matter. What matters is the way he has treated you.

From what you wrote, I'd have to say my personal opinion is you're best off without this man. If he really has cut you off permanently, he's done you a huge favor. Accept it with gratitude. If, on the other hand, he does try to come back into your life run in the opposite direction! At least that is my perspective... for what it's worth...

I see this is your first post here on PC. So... welcome to PsychCentral! I hope you find the time you spend here to be of benefit.

I don't know, of course, if you're here simply seeking advice with regard to this particular concern or if you plan to hang in here with us. However, should you be planning to continue on (we hope you do)... may I suggest you introduce yourself over on PC's New Member Introductions forum? Here's a link:

https://forums.psychcentral.com/new-...introductions/

There's a lot of support that can be available here on PC. The more you post, & reply to other members' posts, the more a part of the community you will become. Plus there are the chat rooms where you'll be able to interact with other PC members in real time (once your first 5 posts have been reviewed & approved.) So please keep posting!