This young woman may be a bottomless pit of need. That's how she sounds to me. To someone like that, you can never meet her definition of being "a good friend," unless you revolve your life completely around her. No one with an ounce of sense would advise you to do that. Your own sense tells you her neediness has become unreasonable. So you have to go by your own common sense.

It is unfortunate that you expended a lot of time, caring and energy on someone who fails to give you the credit you deserve. But that's who she is . . . and she's not likely to change. So, for the sake of your own sanity, you have to distance yourself from her.

It's very hurtful to go so far out of your way for someone and then be told you didn't give enough. Of course you're hurt. But this is valuable feedback you are getting from her. She's not looking to be your friend, but more like a parasite, sucking the life out of you, giving little back (if anything.) So you chalk it up to a lesson learned. You good-heartedly went all in for a person you thought you knew, but you didn't really know. The only way you really know someone is after a good deal of time experiencing things with them. Now enough time and experience has occurred that you see her in a different light from how you did. So you have the right to adjust your level of involvement, based on what you now know. You may need to dial it back to zero. You have that right. It's disappointing for it to turn out this way.

How she's acting may be the only way she knows how to be. No wonder she was back in crisis soon after discharge, needing all kind of support from you. That's likely to happen again - fairly soon . . . and then repeatedly. She probably doesn't have other friends to call on because she probably drove others away. Don't be shocked, if she starts playing emotional blackmail with you. You're likely to get a call or a message where she states that she is in danger of harming herself . . . and she needs you to save her. (You think you have trouble now with her.) Don't let your state of mind be governed by whatever guilt trip she feels like sending you on. That's an express ticket to crazy land.

So do what you need to do to safeguard your own recovery. That's what you are responsible for.