I have just been asking myself the question of what constitutes a healthy relationship. I keep examining how we communicate and act, how my fiancé acts and how I feel. I have to admit to a lot of fear and insecurity being behind my logical deductions. So far the most success is for me to say what I want and what I don't want. This has been a journey for me, one that I am in control over. I think going forward, I will go to a counselor and get some more skills on how to be in charge of where I want to go.