I always worry that I am becoming too dependent on my T and I express this regularly. My T says that it is HER job to make sure that the conditions of our relationship don't lend themselves to me becoming too dependent by monitoring feelings, boundaries, helping me rely on myself first, etc. She isn't cold about it all, and she is def. there for me when I need her, but she really helps me.

If your T is worried about dependency on your part, I think that issue is in his hands. As clients, I think it's natural to have some dependency on our T and it is the T's job to make sure it isn't 'too much'. I believe your T shouldn't be pushing this off on you, totally. Of course you are involved - it's a relationship - but he is involved, too. Maybe you can talk w/him about ways he can help you lessen your dependence, if that is indeed a problem. Good luck and thoughts!