I think there are so many "unknowns" when it comes to some kind of LDR that takes place online.

When it comes to actually having a relationship, it's important to be realistic about how "if" it can become something where both individuals can actually be able to live together as a couple. That includes "if" each individual is capable of earning enough so they can cover all the expenses of having a place to actually live. When someone lives at home, there are a lot of things that they enjoy without having to actually cover the cost for and may not think about until they actually have to cover all these expenses on their own.

If a person decides to go right from living at home to living with someone else, they will have to face the fact where SOMEONE has to be responsible for the cost of rent, food, electricity, heat and also the cost of transportation to and from where ever they work so they can pay all these living expenses. Also who will do the shopping, and who will cook the meals and who will clean up the home and clean the bathroom and who will do all the laundry and often if you rent who will make the trip to the laundry mat and sit there while all the clothes are being washed and dried. All of these chores and responsibilities can turn into arguments and suddenly that person you thought you got along with on the long distance internet relationship can become one big nightmare. That's because when you are interacting online, you are not seeing how that person actually lives their life on so many different levels.

When you don't get to experience a person in person, what if he is a horrible kisser, has terrible breath, and bad body odor? And even if you finally meet in person and things seem ok, the guy is horrible in bed? Well, after all, all these things are important when it comes to considering anything "long term". When you meet a person online it's easy to think the other person will somehow have all the intimate qualities you like and want and dream about having, yet, in reality what if this individual doesn't meet up to what someone may imagine them having when interacting online. And that is even before taking the next step towards setting up "house" someplace together. And one of the biggest problems that ruins so many relationships is in fact, "money and not having enough to make ends meet".

Sometimes, what can happen is one does make the effort to do whatever it takes to fund this "playing house" together. Well, what tends to happen is that person begins to grow a lot as a person and one day will look at the partner that they have to do everything for and think, "this is BS" I am tired of living like this and doing all the work and here I come home and this partner lays in bed all day or is online and doesn't even cook or clean or even TRY to help.

Some women go from living at home to living with a partner and find themselves "trapped" and afraid to leave because they never learned how to be independent and can't imagine being able to live on their own and never took the time to learn so they can self support. What can happen is they can be subjected to all the frustrations and anger their partner vents at them as their partner stresses to cover all the expenses and stresses with their job environment. Suddenly one remembers how dad used to come home in such a foul mood and fill his home with that foul mood so EVERYONE gets to feel his BAD DAY.

Well, there is the "dream of" and then there is REALITY.