In answer to some of the questions: my daughter is 13 and shows no signs of mental illness. Parenting tactics that work with her, have no impact on my son. What Miguel's mom points out is probably on the money. My wife wants me to let her handle the situation, but it's very hard to stay back when I hear the names he calls her. And especially difficult when he gets physical. She says he has boundaries with her and won't go beyond getting in her face, or a small shove. I'm not willing to find out.

My wife and I seem to have different opinions on how to handle things. She tends to give in to him as it's easier to avoid conflict. He hates me because I tend to not give in. It doesn't do him any favors. I really try to do the right thing, but seem to get crapped on for my effort.

He does have an interest in studio wrestling and has shown a good deal of initiative. He devotes a lot of time to it. He has created trading cards for some of the local talent (very professional looking cards too). He is involved in designing sets and merchandising. He works with and is known to the owners and local promoters. This is all unpaid, but is good experience. Is there a future with it? Who knows. I hope so for his sake as he really doesn't have anything to fall back on.

All of this is double-tough as I'm dealing with my own issues at the same time. I'm in a **** place right now and feeling a bit hopeless. I'm having a little pity party for myself. Thank you all for your positive comments.