My interpretation of the T’s email was that he doesn’t need to prove he cares over and over again, in the way Hope wants. He has already gone above and beyond, and I thought this was his way of saying he can’t do that anymore. Just a week ago, Hope was saying that T had proved himself by not giving up on her. I thought the T was implying that this is a repeating cycle for Hope, and he can’t (or won’t) play into it.

Hope, I’m sorry to hear that you are taking a break. Therapy can be really hard. Like others have said, a T can’t just “fix us.” We have to be the ones to do the work by being willing to change our patterns that aren’t working for us and go through the growing pains. When you feel ready, I hope you do contact this T and decide to work on these patterns. It’s really hard, but the best way to push through the pain is to improve our coping skills and stop repeating unhealthy patterns. A T can help teach us those skills.