I don't know if the following post will answer you, but it's my cold attempt at analyzing how the world works and why things are as they are. So it may be against feelings, so proceed with caution.

This is a problem I've been struggling with, too.
To aid that, I attempt to draw a scheme as to how social constructs are.
In the universal sense, there are rulers of a set of land who deal with the real world, and people along the way who have to make it happen for the ruler.
To keep the people below satisfied, they have to be teased with stimulants such as sweet food, video games, sex, what not. So long as they do what needs to be done.
Then come those that for some reason don't do as "needed to be done" so well, for whatever reasons. They are accused and eventually used as puppets, such as through teasing, finger-pointing, laughing at. They use other people to cope with reality, at the price of the victims' wellbeing and belonging.

Well, let's fast-forward quite a bit, since we're no longer in tribal settings even though "scientific" sources try to encourage the idea that we are like tribes.
There are two choices in life - to work hard or to be laid back. Some people are laid back because they are comfortable in their environment. Not a bad thing, it's what we all desire to a certain degree. On the other hand, we want to work hard so we can move along with the wagon, because it waits for no one.

How this all relates to the case you talked about?
Some people stand out for some reasons, including myself. I have a diagnosis of HF-ASD. It's made up, nothing more. But to get an answer of "Yes, we know that and we understand" makes you feel more belonging.

Sometimes I wonder what's the point of keeping the wagon going? And the answer is we're millions up to billions of valuable people in the world who at minimum need basic care. It's quite a burden for leaders, entertaining to think of it that way.
But as always, there is the continuum effect, where what was once abnormal is now normal, and could also be vice versa.
And with that, the fact that the wagon goes just because of us being animals, makes me see things for how they are, and as usual, we are eventually going nowhere