MY HUSBAND AND I FOUND OUT A COUPLE OF MONTHS AGO THAT MY OLDEST STEPSON, AND POSSIBLY THE YOUNGER ONE TOO, WAS SEXUALLY ABUSED SOMEWHERE BETWEEN 5-7 YRS AGO. THEIR MOTHER HAD THEM KEEP THIS A SECRET BECAUSE OF FEAR OF MY HUSBAND TAKING THEM FROM HER "FOREVER", OR HER GETTING IN TROUBLE. ATLEAST THIS IS WHAT SHE TOLD THEM. (THE ABUSER WAS HER NEPHEW) MY HUSBAND AND I HAVE GOT MY STEPSON HELP, BUT HIS MOM NOW SAYS SHE DIDN'T FIND OUT ANY OF THE SITUATION UNTIL MY HUSBAND AND I DID. MY PROBLEMS HAVE INCREASED BECAUSE SINCE I AM NOT A BLOOD RELATIVE I HAVE ABSOLUTELY NO SAY IN ANYTHING. THESE CHILDREN HAVE BEEN WITH ME FOR THE PAST 7YRS AND LIVING IN MY HOUSE ATLEAST HALF OF THE TIME. MY HUSBAND COMES AND GOES TO MEETINGS WITH COUNSELORS AND OTHER APPTS THEN WHEN HE RETURNS HOME HE CALLS HIS FAMILY TO KEEP ALL OF THEM CLUED IN ON EVERYTHING. HE DOES NOT TALK TO ME UNLESS I ASK HIM SOMETHING. I AM REALLY GETTING FRUSTRATED AND HAVE THOUGHT ABOUT LEAVING FOR A WHILE. MY HUSBAND IS A WONDERFUL PERSON AND A GREAT DAD, BUT WHAT ABOUT MY FEELINGS...

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