Hope, instead of repeating this same cycle with male therapist have you considered group DBT? In a group you can get feedback and support from many and not fall into this cycle of unhealthy communication pattern you have have with every T you've had. I think you would benefit greatly from DBT skills. Even CBT could be of limited use for your ingrained patterns of thinking.

From your Ts email id say you found a very good T. If you quit him consider a female with DBT specilist training if the group thing isn't for you.