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Originally Posted by maybeblue
On the other hand, I would consider it somewhat less healthy or more obsessive if you wish that you and she could be friends, or lovers, or something other than a therapist-client. I think that would result in longing and a lot of pain because your logical mind knows that you can't be friends or lovers, but yet you still want it.
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But is that even bad or unhealthy to long for a certain type of relationship? I think it's useful data that points a giant flaming arrow at unmet needs. For me, it's not at all random or unexpected that I wish my T could be my mom, rather than say, my partner or a friend. It doesn't mean that I'm going to show up unannounced at her house on Christmas (which would be pretty unhealthy behavior). I think a therapist can help you examine whatever needs you have and work on ways to meet some of them within the therapeutic relationship and/or help you meet them yourself and/or mourn whatever loss is there.