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Originally Posted by maybeblue
I think that attachment can be good or bad, with therapists or anyone else. I think I would consider it a healthy attachment or just liking your therapist if you were happy and satisfied with what you were getting from her. You might look forward to therapy and even miss talking to her when you were not in session. But you are ok with just having her as a therapist.
On the other hand, I would consider it somewhat less healthy or more obsessive if you wish that you and she could be friends, or lovers, or something other than a therapist-client. I think that would result in longing and a lot of pain because your logical mind knows that you can't be friends or lovers, but yet you still want it.
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You make a good point about a healthy attachment--that's something that came up with T yesterday, where I asked him if a healthy attachment to him would be OK. And he said that's one of the things he wants me to work toward. Which...suggests he thinks now it's a bit unhealthy. I mean, he did come out and say yesterday that he feels I think about him more than is healthy/good for me. Maybe today (extra session) I need to ask him how he would define "healthy attachment" to a T?