I have heard of the idea that everyone is on a spectrum of conditions of sexuality of life. You can move up and down the spectrum and the point is no one is normal. I like the idea that we create our own story and can change it but it is always our story to tell. I don't like to talk to people who judge me like they are editors of my journey, I prefer to hear their story and share a moment. My mom used to claim immunity from most of life and say she was an alcoholic. If we are all searching and struggling and celebrating, then no one gets a free pass, we all can ask for what we need and tell where we have been.