I think attachment stuff for me is often signaled by how much time I want to spend in therapy. For the first year or two, working through a lot of insecure attachment issues, I used to think I would be happy to go to therapy 7 days a week, and/or for hours at a time. Now five years in, going twice a week, I think “I have way better things to do with my time than go those other 5 days or stay for more than an hour.” Occasionally things get stirred up, and I find myself anxious/impatient for my next session.