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Originally Posted by unaluna
(((LT))) some meandering thoughts: Exactly how do you define attachment? I tend to hear it as, "When i say jump, you say how high." That is DEFINITELY from my raising up, if we can even call it that. But that is also the feeling i got from the football phone call, and kinda from the end of your session, where you kinda compulsively ask "is attachment okay?" Its like you just want him to follow a script and say yes, but when he doesnt, it opens a door for you to start your weekend process, which is to email for extra contact. What if you just went to two sessions a week "permanently"? Or even for a couple of months. Without having to do the "special" thing to get the second session.
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Hi I'm actually commenting on this thread but kind of replying to your post at the same time as it seems closest to what I'm kind of feeling but struggling to put into words as I in no way want to come across as being negative about LT,s feelings expressed so well above
Having read a lot of the OP.s posts this one brings a feeling of concern for both LT and 't' - I've only had/have one therapist and decided early on that whether it worked out or not that it was going to be a one time only as repeating and starting over with someone else would be too painful and would stop me moving forward -I have had several deep ruptures with my 't'and we have decided together the best way forward with honesty on both sides however brutal that can be-I wouldn't stick with him if I wasn't attached in some way -I actually
Find his mind a delight to spend time with and I miss him deeply when I leave and for about 24 hrs after-in the UK we don't do a lot of outside contact so the option of immediate email contact at length is not there -this period is always the time is when s h rears its head so I do understand the strength of emotions around a 't' and I often feel that the pain of it all outweighs the gain and that is a choice I have to make as an adult
but the constant and permitted paid dialogue about attachment and/or
transference that seems to occur here makes me feel very nervous for LT and her 't'
Am I alone in feeling this