richard,

the only times that my husband has ever had problems maintaining has been when he's drank...not a good choice before sex.

the other time was when he had a prostate infection. when the infection was gone, he was fine. he had SO much more of a problem with this than i did and he's the one with the lower sex drive. i don't think a mature, involved woman has NEARLY the problems with this situation that most men think. every woman i have ever talked to about this has been kind and understanding, and believe me some of these woman like to "dog" their man about anything else, but won't about this.

this is one area that i'm so glad that i'm a woman. i can't imagine the performance anxiety a man must feel, so i can only imagine what the feelings must be when there are problems.

just my input on it.

kd