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Originally Posted by LonesomeTonight
What's concerning me centers around the attachment talk from the end of the session. For one, the fact that you said I think about my relationship with you more than any of your other clients. First, I feel weird being compared to your other clients--we're all different people bringing different issues to therapy. Plus, I suspect some of them probably think about your relationship more than you know--they just don't tell you about it. (I used to be one of those people with [ex-T and MC], but I eventually came to learn that it's better to talk about it than to keep it all inside. Even though sometimes it leads to painful discussions.)
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I think that sometimes being on the forum helps clients bring up things like attachment, transference, or other difficult topics (e.g., in my case, invading my T's privacy through internet snooping). My T once commented that I am very brave in the subjects I bring up and I thought, well yeah, because I know from the forum that people do talk about these things and nobody spontaneously combusts, and it's often useful, and I'm not the only one in the world talking about these things. But it may be that most clients don't reveal as much. They feel it, they just are less likely to say it because without a forum like this, it may feel taboo.
Secondly though, anyone who's -- say -- an Irvin Yalom fan, would spend lots of time talking about the relationship. How much of the healing occurs within the relationship is up for debate, but for some of us it really feels central. This is not cause for concern unless the T doesn't know how to handle it, I think. Hoping for a good outcome, LT!