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Originally Posted by healingme4me
I'll be honest about Valentine's day, I haven't viewed it quite the same since researching origins. I wear black now and claim religious observance. From Christmas to New Years to my son's birthday to my birthday and 2 weeks later...this typically snow filled day where dressing up is a long shot-who wants to wear heels in snow and ice? I do give little giftbags to my sons.
I suspect as far as the book, isn't it funny how it's implied that we aren't good enough, as women? As though there's some flaw because we haven't landed a catch? No wonder that it's both laughable and frustrating.
I just started to listen to the above video. Perhaps some words of wisdom? Or just another disappointed heart? It's 38 minutes long 
Marriage involves sharing space and responsibility for maintaining space. I might just be disillusioned?? Is your worth truly contingent on shared space? |
Here's my take on Valentine's Day. I have TWO men in my life who I love more than anything in the world. One is my best friend, and the other is my sort-of boyfriend, (who is part of my Star Trek group that I have made wonderful bonds with) and that I have flirty fun with, (I refuse to slap a label on this one), and I sent them both cards and the SAME kind of present for Valentine's Day, (they both have beards so I sent them both beard kits to beautify it), and it made me happy to send them.
Here's the kicker, even though I have access to both men, (they both live in the same state as me), I have NO INTENTION of having a romantic Valentine's Day with either one of them. My limit is probably a nice phone call for the each of them. It's not that I am greedy or ungrateful, or that I don't care for either one, its that something clicked in my head about what it is that I have been looking for in a relationship.
It's FREEDOM. ABSOLUTE FREEDOM to love whoever, how many I want to, and not have any chains tied to me. Chains like marriage, living with someone, or even the obligations of dates. And I am talking about cheating on anyone either, both the men in my life are fully aware of each other. I fully understand that those kinds of things may be good for some people, but not for me.
I guess what I am saying is, I have been where Eve is, and where a lot of women are coming from, and I have to say, the way the veil of "the perfect relationship" was pulled out from over my eyes, and I realized that I can live my life however I choose, I didn't need to pine, wish, desperately grasp for something that was proabably not meant for me anyway, and I really don't care. I am blessed with the love I have from these men, and my family, and all my friends.
My solution? Getting all dolled up and heading to my favorite local restaurant, ordering a glass of wine, and eating a nice meal, ALL BY MYSELF, this Valentine's Day. And if people look and stare? All they will see is a confident woman, who is loving who she is and enjoying life on her terms.
(By the way, Valentines' Day should really be everyday anyway, not just reserved for one day. Love the one you're with like every day is Valentine's Day!!).