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Originally Posted by LonesomeTonight
Quick update--session went well! Posting full writeup in a bit (there was just a lot there...).
In response to Nelly, this T seems to have really good boundaries. I had some issues with my marriage counselor (MC), for whom I had strong attachment and transference, because his boundaries were fuzzy and often shifting. So I'm pretty well-versed in attachment and transference--maybe too well! And T knows all about my issues with MC--it was one of the main things that led me to start seeing him (because ex-T, who I'd been seeing for 6 years, wasn't really helping with it).
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Hi LT
I'm glad it went well
I in no way meant to imply that your 't's boundaries were not secure or that your knowledge of attachment and transference issues was not extensive:-)
My feeling of concern likely stems from a cultural difference in the way and frequency of outside contact which allows these issues to take front stage on an almost daily basis-that's not to say that I don't spend a lot of thinking time on my relationship with my therapist and the impact it has on my therapy and we do discuss it in session-it is sometimes very scary and painful and has been the cause of me "dumping" him on many occasions as I can't keep putting myself through it(I am a victim of narcissistic parents and a 28 yr marriage to a lying cheating emotionally abuse man-the level of disrespect humiliation and control exerted would seem unbelievable to many but not here on PC )
So my concern is genuine-I just hope these as yet unprocessed feelings don't undermine or overwhelm your still fairly new therapeutic alliance