It's 8 years! How can I still not have a secure attachment to my T? Also, does it really transfer over to other people in my life? I see that happening somewhat. I just don't quite understand how I'm supposed to get the secure attachment. I know T cares about me and it's genuine. But I'm still her job and she's enabling the connection to help me. She cares AND or BECAUSE I'm her job? Or both?