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Feb 08, 2018, 02:49 PM

Wow,

I feel the same exact way you do. I've spoken to other people about this too, mostly women and they seem happy being by themselves. They act like I'm the one with the problem. I want a partner, what is so terrible about that? The people that want to be alone, more power to them, but that's not how I want to live. Everyone wants different things.

I'm 45, and I've been living alone since 2007. Sometimes I feel like if I will never be with anyone. I've had friends in the past, but that's just the thing "had", then they just don't want to deal with you anymore, well one friendship I ended it first then she agreed that it would be best to move on. Actually, I'm so glad I don't have to deal with her or her family anymore. The constant arguing when I went over there was too much between her brother, kids...

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Originally Posted by golden_eve

Well, here I am, single again and it's depressing the heck out of me.

I like partnership. I prefer partnership. I have always gravitated towards relationships.... I have been single for months at a time in my life and have taken breaks before, but this time, I feel it may be permanent.

I have patterns and have always landed myself into unhealthy relationships.

I am losing hope that I will ever be healthy enough myself to avoid these kinds of relationships. I feel I will always be alone. I fear I will always be alone.

I also feel that there are no good men out there who are single and healthy minded enough who also happen to be highly compatible with me. What are the odds? Slim to none. I've dated plenty.

I don't know how I am going to exist if I have to be single for the rest of my life. I have friends. I have a social life and I go out often. But this reality is seriously depressing me.

Single women are supposedly some of the happiest people alive, but for me, I cannot imagine being happy for the rest of my life if I have to be single.

I am losing hope. I'm 47 and feel that nothing will change.

Please help.. even if it's just a story of inspiration, I need to hear it. Especially from those who can relate to where I am at.... thank you so much.