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Originally Posted by FallDuskTrain
Thank you so very much for saying this. I disagree with "it will happen when you least expect it, or when you stop looking" because it is NOT true.
I have been completely single for more than 10 years. I never look nor I expect to find him.
Every single person I know has found her/his partner because she/he was actively looking for a partner on few different online platforms, going out to bars, attending meet up groups, arranging through friends etc. So, yeah you got to actively put yourself out there. I wish my life were at a point which enabled an environment to be concerned about finding a partner but unfortunately I have so many other severe issues to deal with.
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I agree, you won't find anyone if you aren't meeting people. I don't think you have to be like scouring the web and the world, but you have to be socializing and meeting people if you want to meet someone new with the hopes of being romantic. That's like saying you'll get a job if you stop sending out resumes. Although...hmm...that sort of did happen to me, but I stopped sending out resumes and started networking instead, so still..same principle...you have to put yourself out there.
I am at a point with relationships where...I have this fantasy about having a relationship that I enjoy indulging in...but I don't really know that I want to be involved with anyone. I've sort of reached this point of happiness with my life. I do want friends to hang out with and have fun, hence starting the meetup groups, etc. Yeah, I would like to have sex some more, but...I don't know, it's just not a huge concern for me right now.
I even joined eHarmony the other day, and I still haven't even looked at my matches in a week. Sigh.
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