I have not been on here for a long time, I've been extremely busy with a young child at home now.
There have been a lot of good points made and I really do appreciate everyone who has contributed.
There have still been some ups and downs but I would say things have improved a little. There is still room for a lot more improvement no doubt but things seem to be slowly going in the right direction.
For the person who asked how I was doing since my last post. What I did was try to find a flaw with this other woman and there weren't really any I could find but I did find something she did that I didn't really care for. It's a very minor thing that probably wouldn't bother most people but I tried to focus on that every time she popped in my head and I think that helped me a lot. I think once I started doing that it also changed her. She seemed less interested or she started hiding her feelings better. I do still find myself thinking of this other woman from time to time but the thoughts and feelings are far less intense now. Several months have passed since I originally posted on here and I think with time and me focusing on her "flaw" my feelings are not what they used to be that's for sure. I don't know if or when these thoughts or feelings I had/have will ever go away entirely as I don't see them vanishing entirely anytime soon but I literally couldn't go 5 minutes without thinking about her before, whereas now I can go days between thoughts of her. Most of this was before the birth of my child, having a baby, especially when she is not happy definitely helps focus on the baby and nothing else