Well, the irony. You all are talking about the fact that sometimes, when you stop looking it happens. Well, what happened? The moment I say I am not going to date and gave up, a new guy approaches me who is a part of my music scene. I told him when he asked me out that I am not dating right now and am getting over two relationships. He has continued to talk to me and be my friend. Now we're going to hang out tonight as friends.

I think he may have hope that it will turn into something, but I am not of the mindset to even really think about it. He knows where I stand. I have told him directly.

But it's just SO ironic to me. Literally, it feels like the moment I declare I will be single, someone approaches me. I recall this happening in the past, too.

I am definitely out there so to speak to meet other guys, but mainly in the bar scene.

I also tend to agree that you do have to put yourself out there and be proactive in meeting people. But I have heard over and over again too, that when you stop "looking" and are comfortable with being single, that's when you find him. I wonder why that is??? SO many people have said this to me, that I wonder if it is true?