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Old Feb 09, 2018, 08:24 AM
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Originally Posted by Coming up tails View Post
just be prepared that going more often can intensify the attachment. Like putting more fuel on the fire... In the begining my t suggested coming twice a week just while things settled down with the intense transference.... six to seven months later... still going twice a week and things are getting harder. So while for some, going extra helps, it can also intensify attachment struggles. The T relationship can take a lot of head space going more often.


I developed an intense attachment to my T and was going once a week. The time between sessions started to become unbearable and I found myself wishing the week away and feeling anxious. We changed to twice a week and it has helped me greatly. I don't think I am anymore attached than I was before as it's still just as intense but now less painful. I also feel twice a week for me has allowed me to move at a better pace and delve more into things. Before it I found I was spending 20 minutes of each session just recapping on my week before I could get any real 'work' done. The one negative I would say is that going twice a week does mean a lot of my headspace is taken up with thinking of T and therapy in general. This was happening when I was going once a week though. The difference is when I was going once a week a lot of that headspace was taken up longing for T and for my therapy day to come along but now it's is filled with more productive things like thoughts and insight on what we've talked about etc. Often stuff comes up in one session and I don't get the chance to process it fully until after the session. This comes up afterwards and thankfully I don't have to wait a whole week until I can revisit it.

For me, as someone who had developed an intense attachment to my T going twice a week has helped me.
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