I'm desperately hoping someone can help me. I've been in a relationship with a guy for about a year, and I love him, but his drinking scares me, a lot. I've tried to talk to him about it, had a 2 hour conversation with him last night about it in which he denied that he drinks "too much" and told me I am overreacting to his drinking. I feel like I'm not overreacting, but I'm so scared and upset that now I can't tell if I am or not, particularly knowing that I suffer from anxiety, which tends to cloud everything, all the time anyway. But, here is what scares about his drinking:

1. He binge drinks with the intended purpose of getting drunk, on average does so every other weekend, but sometimes more than that. There's a 50/50 chance he'll be drunk on any given weekend. He rarely ever has only one beer, his average is 5 or better, but double digits are not uncommon, because as he is fond of saying, "one tastes like another."

2. He seems to have some sort of "entitled" attitude towards drinking. He's aware that I don't like it when he drinks, but always defends it to me by saying things like "I know you don't like drinking, but it's what you do when you're with your family/friends" or "my brother is having a stressful time right now and I have to have a few drinks with him so he'll relax."

3. He is epileptic and takes anti-seizure medication that should not be mixed with alcohol, and he is well aware it should not be but chooses to drink anyway. I have expressed my concerns for his health and safety to him several times, but all it ever results in is him telling me, "you only live once."

4. He seems to think that everyone wants to drink and get drunk, that's it's a normal thing. I don't drink, I never got into it, have only been drunk once in my life purely by accident. I am also diabetic and stay away from alcohol for obvious reasons there. But when I confront him about his drinking he seems to think I'm jealous that he can drink and I can't, even though I've told him several times that I don't want to drink. He doesn't seem to understand that I don't drink because don't want to, not because I "can't."

5. Confronted him last night about how he didn't drink for 2 months, but in the last 2 weeks he's been drunk 3 times. He claims he wasn't "drunk" each time, but just "buzzed," and again sited that his brother is "having a tough time right now" and he "is just trying to help his brother relax." I asked him if he thought drinking 3 times in 2 weeks was excessive, and he told me I am overreacting and that "he doesn't have a problem with his drinking" but I am who "has a problem with his drinking."

6. Last night is also when he started to deny things he told me in the past regarding his drinking. He was boasting back in early July how he drank 17 beers in one night. When I brought that up last night, he said he hasn't drank 17 beers in one night since he was in his 20's (he's 34 now). He also has said to me on several occasions that his mother doesn't like it when he drinks, but when I referenced that last night, he also denied having said that and told me his mother is okay with him drinking. As well, he told me used to date a girl who was a heavy drinker, and that she used to tell him he drank a lot. But, when I mentioned that to him last night, he again denied that she ever said that to him.

Am I overreacting? I'm not saying he's an alcoholic, but I feel like it's just around the corner...I think. Like I said, I'm very scared, I love him, I don't want to lose him, but I also don't feel like I can be with him the way he is drinking, but I don't know if my fears and the way I feel are mitigated based on his behavior. I cried all night over this, I know I can't fix it or him, but now I'm questioning if there is anything to fix except myself...