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Originally Posted by mostlylurking
Total speculation here TMC, but could the part that was "bombing" him have expected that somehow, because this happened when you were going to therapy, he should have protected you from it? I know that's not rational, but then feelings often aren't. Was (s)he punishing him for letting you get hurt in "his" car park, on the way to see him?
Or, in a similar vein, did he perhaps say anything in the first moments of therapy that didn't feel sufficiently protective of you or concerned about you? Such that a protective part might feel like he was failing as your ally?
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Actually, he did say "were you terrified?" in such a way that I heard it as "why would you be afraid? That's ridiculous..." -- I called him out on this right away, though, and we handled it. It was just a misinterpretation on my part, and I think a really good immediate sign that a part was judging other parts harshly for having been afraid...and possibly admitting to it.
It's also true that he greeted me with a smile as if nothing had happened. But, when I texted him about what'd happened, his response showed concern. So...mixed bag?
I'm not fully aware of what the relationship bomber was thinking/feeling.