Wow, thank you Unaluna! I never considered it that way, but you are right! I even said to him last night that in general I spend a lot of time feeling like he doesn't want me and wondering if he really does love me. He had no answer to that, of course. But I do feel like I put an awful lot of energy into this relationship, when he does very little himself, and all I get for it is the occasional scrap of affection.