It's so easy to stand on the moral high ground . I could say " don't do or say anything that you would not do if your partner was next to you " easy , simple , solved .... ah hang on . "Have you ever looked at a pornagraphic picture on the net Arch ? ".."well yes Arch , once or twice I have , but you know , just for study purposes " ...." ahhh , so your partner is there looking also huh ?" ..." uhmm , no , I've sure she wouldn't mind , but as luck would have it , she wasn't there ...no " ..... " copy that , so that takes you off the perfect list ".........
You see this sort of thing in the work environment as well as apparently online ( I don't chat to people online so am assuming and have heard ) .. the flirting behaviour , the unspoken and guarded messages ... all just harmless fun I suppose , unless it's not . One of my colleagues lost his family and about $1 mill with "harmless fun" ... I suppose it's some sort of thrill , or that feeling of the chase ? ...no idea really , I'm out of my depth now . Luckily I'm 52 and have a head like a robbers dog so I don't need to guard against such things . I've had people 20 years my junior give me compliments in the work environment . I make a point of not answering just as if I never heard .
I wish the OP good fortune and good thinking . There's a recurring issue there which needs to be addressed . No one is perfect , but you have to try your best to be as true and honest as possible .