Sorry, to take so long to reply, work schedule, etc.
My understanding of cluster b , narcisistic, sociopathic, psychopathic is that its a pretty broad range of a borderline personality disorder, I didn't want to name all the ways he has demonstrated some of these tendancies because the only way this posting has anything to do with him is my reaction to it, which, has been predictable.
I haven't had the total affects because of living so far away, but, there were all the discards and such when I would try to assert my needs, or ask for more, as long as I played along with the 'rules' things were ok, but for most of this time its been me hanging on to him loosely but, enough to start making me feel like a twit for doing this.
Maybe he just kept a better head knowing it would never be anything more than fwb type relationship, which I think he has a nice little collection of those already.
But, like I said, I think I've gained some better perspective now that I communicated my point of view. Not that it makes it all go away. I think I am going to feel like an idiot for quite a while.