Quote:
Originally Posted by golden_eve
TY!! This is very helpful!! 
I have been needy for love in the past. That has attracted ALL the wrong partners. I want to be the opposite now. Maybe, and I think this is it.. this is the KEY to finding healthy love...... to be comfortable in your own skin, to feel OK alone and not dependent on another for happiness or fulfillment.... and to feel like you don't NEED a relationship..... Of course, I advise ppl of this in my own blog, but have I always followed this principle? NO. Now it's time to follow my own guidance!!! |
This has been the most inspiring thing I have seen you write in quite some time. (I mean all your posts are equally awesome, but this one stands out to me more for some reason). Anyway, you are well on your way. Putting out that needy vibe, and reeking of desperation is a magnet for the users, abusers and just guys that KNOW you NEED them so badly, that they can treat you however they please and you'll totally put up with it because of how bad you need to be loved. That scenario, has been my past dating life of 20 years! Talk about an endless circle of pain and nonsense!
Quote:
Originally Posted by golden_eve
I am really weirded out....
I mentioned before that I met someone new, the moment I decided to be single. SO WEIRD. We went out last night as friends. Nothing happened, but we did have fun. I am making sure that nothing happens, but I know he is interested in me. He did try to hold my hand because my hand was freezing from holding my beer.
Just having someone who is interested gives me some hope for a brighter future. Of course though, in my head I'm thinking is this guy marriage material?
|
As far as this new guy goes, (and I am sure other people will provide input too), but all I am going to say, is pull the brakes. Marriage at this stage, is what starts the spinning that goes through our heads when we get the slightest recognition of affection, or when we build the whole fantasy because, we think, "oh wow, I wasn't looking, is it fate, is he the "one?"
As nice as that is, (and hey he might be), but don't start that this early. That hamster wheel in your head is going to start spinning like a thousand miles an hour. Forward Eve! Not backward! Always Forward!
Still though, you had a great time, and you do like him, and he seems to like you too. So enjoy that.
Rooting for you as always!!
