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Old Feb 10, 2018, 07:49 AM
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Good luck but just be careful.

Do not make yourself available 24/7 for a new guy. Don’t put your life on hold in pursuing a new man that soon. If you want to date that soon it’s ok, no rules that you should not, but limit it to once a week or so, don’t make him a priority.

I know you are saying you know you need to stand on your own two feet but you don’t yet. So make that a priority. Be independent first and do give yourself time to process what happened before you are ona new adventure.

Be careful focusing on mundane things like he wanted to hold your hand or he will be your Valentine date so you aren’t alone or other unimportant things

If you truly want to get to know him on a deeper level, refrain from being intoxicated on dates like with the other guy. I know you just want to have fun now but you said the same aboit other guy. You wanted casual fun with concerts, dancing and drinking but it all ended in disaster and your unnecessary suffering (to extreme level of not wanting to live). Don’t go through the motions again please. Please be mindful.

Think about this attraction. This is third man you are attracted to since the Fall. Do give it a lot of thought. Why are you getting attracted to them all? Why so fast? You were just crying about the other one like few days ago but you are already attracted to the other one? What are you attracted to? Looks? Romantic gestures? Them love bombing you right away? (This one wants to hold your hand, the other one wanted to go on trips, it’s a first date or not even a date yet). Why are you attracted to them all and then loving them all (at least last two but likely more) without knowing them on any meaningful level? You didn’t even know what the other guy was up to when you weren’t around but you already loved him! Not really knowing him. You need to look into it before you jump in. Do talk to your therapist about everything including dating a new guy.

Any news on your move?