I am one of those who do not believe in realistic "working" on attachment issues using the relationship with the T as a model, but that may reflect either my own attachment issue or just a personal opinion/preference, or both.

What I wanted to say though, exactly based on my personal opinion, is that I think developing normal, constructive, healthy attachments in therapy that can be similar to wanted forms of it in everyday life is probably extremely challenging for those that do not come from a largely secure, kinda effortless base in that area already. I think this because the relationship with a therapist is a designed one and so different from any other, so limited in comparison. I actually feel that those, like you rainbow, who are trying to develop secure attachment with a T when it is not your default base, deserve respect even for taking that challenge and the effort, regardless of the outcome.