This does sound like a "father figure" thing like what has been mentioned. Something struck in my head though while reading this, but when an Alpha Dog comes into a room, the rest of the dogs kind of follow suit, and listen intently. (Totally not saying you are a dog in any way, just my crazy brain reasoning).

My dad was a total totalitarian and I completely rebelled, and honestly every relationship I have entered, I actually didn't listen or didn't respect the guy unless he was aggressive, with some authority over men, dominant, and even somewhat of a jerk. (Stereotypical behavior of wanting the "bad boy"). It isn't my fault though, because the love and approval my father never showed me that I desperately wanted, directly related to how I related to men, later in life.