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Mouse_ said:
I read somewhere that a third of the time of being good enought is all thats needed

</div></font></blockquote><font class="post">Yes, I've heard that too. I think it is from Winnicott. A "good enough" mother or therapist need connect only 1/3 of the time. Another 1/3 can be rupture and repair. The remaining 1/3 can be rupture and not repaired. And that is good enough! My T told me that when we were in the middle of a big rupture/repair to reassure me that it was very normal to have that in a relationship. So whenever T and I don't connect, I remember that it is OK, we need only connect right off 1/3 of the time for it to be a "good enough" relationship.

I hope you are feeling better today, ECHOES.