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Originally Posted by growlycat
Passivity and powerlessness is not something I ascribe to.
These things happen and we can do nothing. Or we can legally and nonviolenty take action to fight back. Even voicing an opinion is better than nothing.
A lot of people here have histories of feeling powerless, maybe even learned helplessness. I am always happy to see people overcome this and start by standing up for themselves.
Some people who were violated by this poster didn’t even want to go through the trouble of asking him politely to not quote them. That makes me terribly sad for them.
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Exactly Growlycat. Thank you for saying that. I learned passivity all my life especially next to men. That carried over into everything else. Just accept what is happening, don't complain and suck it up. Plus I could not handle the stress of the fight to defend myself against whatever.
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When a child’s emotional needs are not met and a child is repeatedly hurt and abused, this deeply and profoundly affects the child’s development. Wanting those unmet childhood needs in adulthood. Looking for safety, protection, being cherished and loved can often be normal unmet needs in childhood, and the survivor searches for these in other adults. This can be where survivors search for mother and father figures. Transference issues in counseling can occur and this is normal for childhood abuse survivors.
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