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Feb 10, 2018, 02:01 PM
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Originally Posted by TishaBuv
Of course I’m not suggesting Eve not post. I’m married, so I’m not even comparing myself, yet TBE I feel a little envious how Eve is getting dates with such abundance and ease. So I’m thinking there must be a lot of people, seeing as there are so many readers of Eve’s threads, who feel envious.
I guess my point is to acknowledge the other side of the coin of people who can’t get dates, and here Eve is very blessed to be getting so many. Also, to say beware who may be getting triggered by the discussion of all these suitors. That’s my paranoia talking, especially since the thread about who is lurking here and using these posts for whatever purpose.
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Yeah, I feel like this is a "be grateful it isn't worse for you" or "just be glad you aren't homeless' comparison that is not only unhelpful but invalidating of someone's pain.
If someone is envious that's there issue. It shouldn't be used to negate Eve's pain by saying, "well, you know, some people would love to have all the dates you've been getting," like she should be grateful to have the pain that she has.
Maybe you didn't realize that this kind of statement can be invalidating. But it is.
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