I am confident posting here because those who steal content will be sued by me personally. They know who they are.

That out of the way, dear OP, do you have a preference for a female t? I personally have a strong preference for a male because an early abuser was female. Some people have no preference or even have issues with both.

If you feel a pull or craving to have a female t it may be an opportunity to heal these early issues. The problem only comes when the “fit” is not a good one. If you need a mother figure and you have a cold and clinical cal therapist things will not go well.

Can you interview therapists and see what your gut feeling is? Maybe try interviewing s guy too? But I do agree with Elio- even a male therapist can feel like s parent so there may be no avoiding it. On the plus side, from my own experience, male therapists can be very kind and nurturing.