Perhaps it may be helpful to think about what you were exposed to growing up that may be contributing to the things that tend to attract you that are actually not healthy for you to be attracted to. Also, situations where you feel like you are going to face being cut out or disrespected because you are not good enough. Even why you have a hard time walking away from someone who can't be faithful where that person is capable of actually respecting "you" instead of only seeing "you" as a presence in their world that constantly revolves around "them".

When a child grows up in a home where the father is a narcissist, the world they grow up in tends to revolve around what needs to happen to make dad happy. The dad is pretty much the center of all the "drama" or is the main character that the family story revolves around. So, let's think about that word "character". Well, that word "character" is something a lot of young female children are encouraged to think about as a man that will come along and notice them and fall in love with them and take care of them the rest of their lives. What can happen with that is how a little female child can unknowingly genuinely believe that "someday" my prince will come. My prince will have "character" and he will be "handsome" and think I am beautiful and take me away to live in HIS world with HIM, in his castle and I will be his one true love and he will be mine.

This early programming along with having a narcissistic father where the family drama revolves around "him" and his needs is what contributes to being susceptible to falling for male narcissists. And often young girls make this their main drive and these girls tend to fall into a certain loop searching for this "prince" instead of engaging in hobbies and interest groups where these girls are exploring other things to be passionate about for "themselves". This was something they also learned growing up where the narcissistic father was the "center" of the world and often without realizing it the young girl isn't really nurtured to feel her own identity and personal independence is "safe and rewarding and fullfilling". This is what goes into the "Lady in Waiting" that tends to continue to be attracted to the kind of man that ends up being yet another disappointment because they can only appreciate others that can be a part of how they need all the drama to revolve around THEM. Yes, these individuals can be very charismatic, have a lot of character and often stand out, but, it's important to understand the red flags where these individuals tend to have so much revolve around THEM. Also, to recognize how you may not see these red flags or can even accept them simply because these are "familiar" characteristics you got used to experiencing in dear old dad.