Thanks. I did confront that therapist, I told her I wanted another therapist and I also told her why and what had upset me. But as part of her answer was "I could have said that to another patient as well", I realised that she didntīīt want to understand me nor did we share the same values about how to treat another human being.
Yes, I totally agree itīs more or less neccessary to resolve this in one way or the other. Iīve brought this up with a counsellor I see in church and I hope sheīll manage to resolve this together with me.
I also agree itīs very important to get ones feelings validated, itīs valuable to read about yours and others experiences around this.
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Originally Posted by maybeblue
Yes. I have just cancelled an appointment, told the secretary I'd call back and make another one, and then just never do it. One of my therapists told me that most people do it that way. Most clients don't really want a big "goodbye" session apparently.
It's possible that even if you had confronted your therapist and told her why you were leaving she might not have heard you or responded to your feelings. But since you still feel bad about it after all this time, you might need to figure out some way to resolve it within yourself. Maybe talking to another therapist would help? Or journalling? Posting about it on here? Something to validate your own feelings.
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