My marriage counselor has said a few times, including shortly after we started seeing him, that he has an anxiety disorder. It made me feel like he could understand me more, because I do, too.

But then...I don't know, more recently I feel like it's actually been a negative thing. At times, he seems to act like since he's learned to deal with his anxiety, why shouldn't I be able to? It's like if a former smoker would say to a current smoker, "Just quit--I did it, it's easy!" (forgetting how hard it can be). And he seems to put much of the blame on me for marriage issues, like, I'm just being too anxious, I need to adapt to H, as opposed to both of us trying to make changes/compromise. It's too complicated to get into here, so I'll stop rambling!