I'm quite sure my T has been depressed. She told me once that after a life event (she specified) she had a hard time and everything took a LOT of energy.

Pdoc has only said he's never taking clomipramine. He was going to prescribe it to me (after I'd tried a few other meds) and talking about how he doesn't prescribe it much (he's a child/youth pdoc, SSRI 's are their first-second-third line) it's his favourite med. Then he blinked as if only then realizing how he sounded and said he's never taken it himself.
He doesn't talk about himself much. He's not closed, just doesn't volunteer a lot of information on his home life and I don't mind that.

I'm wary of T's who have been through too similar things as I. Afraid they think what works for them works for everybody, and also the 'yeah, but you got through it. I might not, and anyway, I'm in it now." And then there's the fear of not being believed because you have a symptom they don't have, or being thought to be exaggerating because [one of] your symptoms is/are worse than theirs.